The majority of my life I have been looking at the world with an eye toward ‘finding the correct answer’. “What is the right way to do this?” “What is the proper response to this situation?” etc. and what I found was taking responsibility for everything that I manifested (knowingly or otherwise) was about the strongest position I could take.
Now as an almost forty year old, I am beginning to learn that rather than there being a correct vs. incorrect paradigm going on in most people there is a “This is how I do things” mentality. This means that in order to preserve (and what the heck, even NURTURE) relationships I may be better served by giving credence to everyone and their guidance/operational system/way-of-doing-things regardless of my thoughts on their clearly idiotic opinion.
This stresses me out more than a bit. It makes me think “Hey, if these people over here get to be validated regardless of their complete inability to respond as anything other than a total fucktard, why should I even try? ESPECIALLY when I’ve actually shown up with my head located somewhere entirely outside of my own ass and not only do I recieve ‘equal’ treatment as Johnny Headinbottom but I’m actually chastised for daring to imply that my way could possibly the right way and Professor Headinbottom is not quite possessing all the facts for an educated decision.” This has occurred to me. More than once.